Social Media is Ruining Our Lives

Good intentions. Do you always have good intentions especially when your almost three-year-old goes down for his lunchtime nap? Good intentions involving housework,

Do you always have good intentions especially when your almost three-year-old goes down for his lunchtime nap? Good intentions involving housework, exercise and spending a bit of time on your passion – mine being drawing house plans and writing. Do those good intentions go by the wayside because social media gets in the way?

Does your “quick” scan of what’s happening in the online world turn into hours of brain-numbing scrolling, occasional laughing, a few ahhs and many more ridiculous faces that the owners of those statuses can’t see or hear?  Then your time is up. The almost three-year-old is awake and it’s school run time. No housework was completed, no writing of the novel done and there was definitely no yoga on the lounge room floor. Hell, you didn’t even make it into your active wear…

That afternoon, as you look around your home, you promise yourself tomorrow will be different. Just like tonight when you go to bed you’ll promise yourself your diet will be different too…

Promises.

Do you find yourself following all these fitness blogs and diet pages? Paleo, lite n’ easy, Ashy Bines, Kayla Itsines? Social media is the platform for many of these. This is the best form of advertising. Yet social media is the biggest distraction of all. Do you sit there and watch the exercise videos or scroll through the foods? Note: sitting there watching someone else exercising does not have the same benefits as doing them yourself – yep, tried and tested. And damn those foods just make you hungry and you just want any food to get in your belly.

The most productive time of my life was when I deactivated Facebook. Two whole months of productivity. It was awesome but things stopped functioning too. How do you survive without social media when that’s where all your events are – the ones you’re attending and hosting. It’s also where your business and charity pages are which would not exist without a personal page and where you share your blogs. It’s a catch 22.

Is social media taking up too much space in our lives? What do you think?

One love,

DRK xxx

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Social Media – Ruining One Relationship At A Time

Never write a message when there are feelings attached because, as I have just learnt, things get misconstrued. You may deliver a message from your heart but the tone of it can be read in a very different way and then, well then shit really hits the fan.  I’m not one for confrontation and I certainly would never intentionally hurt another human beings feelings but today I did. I did, unintentionally, all because my “worries” and my “concerns” weren’t translated as I had intended and were interpreted as accusing, mean and angry. 

Making someone “see” something you see is hard at the best of times but when they are in an armoured fuck-you vehicle then you stand no chance at all and it’s best to just walk away, nah fuck it you better run! No matter how much it hurts! No matter how many years of friendship that are about to be tossed to the curb awaiting rubbish collection.

Today I’ve learnt to buffer the whole truth and nothing but the truth coz so help me God it doesn’t lead to anywhere I ever want to be again. Today I’ve learnt to keep my stupid mouth shut and continue to avoid confrontations at all costs even if it means not being true to what I’m really thinking. I am shaking and I am in shock. I feel like I’ve just witnessed myself and my friend in a car accident, all unfolding before my eyes in slow motion. I’m in shock because I have never, ever been spoken to by anyone, ever in my life like I was today. I have never been so misinterpreted, so misunderstood. I have never been told that someone regrets having had a friendship with me. I have never been told I am a nasty piece of work. And I don’t believe it for a second. I’ve spent my life caring for others, in fact I care for others more than myself most of the time. Sure I’ve bitched and whinged about people throughout my lifetime. I’ve vented to my friends about my friends or my kids or my husband and all back around again. Hell I’ve blogged about it numerous times. Sometimes I’ve been a shitty absent friend when caught up in my own crap but I’m not vengeful, spiteful or nasty. I am not a piece of shit and I would never, intentionally, hurt someone I care about. I hope she’s ok.

So today I learnt a lesson. In fact, I learnt many. Firstly, never, ever ask a friend if they unfriended you even if you know you were friends before and now suddenly you’re not – it may be a technological-fuck-up and not a human-decision-error. Never ask them that question because what happens from there is a series of reactions that don’t lead to a very good outcome. A simple question but not a simple outcome. I also learnt never to rely on social media to keep friendships safe because social media is the most unsocial way to connect with anyone ever. I learnt when being honest, filter at all costs! Honesty is not always well received especially if it’s not asked for. And finally I learnt if in doubt pick up the phone and talk. Get in your car, drive around, knock on their door and ask face to face. Never, ever rely on social media to relay a message especially when there are feelings attached to it, ever!

One love

DRK xxx

“Never, EVER, rely on a message to convey the emotions of the words it carries… Ever.” ~ Cristy O’Brien