Life Advice. Mass Confusion.

I’ve just read an article by Elizabeth Gilbert which I found via Mamamia. While reading the article, entitled “Life Advice“, I found myself nodding, a lot. I was deep in the context of the read, I was jotting down notes like a mo-fo and I was feeling what she was putting out there. It made me feel excited and I was hopeful that I may be able to finally find the answer to my never-ending question, “What am I doing with my life?” A question, I believe, a lot of stay-at-homes Mums ask themselves.

We are all on limited time here so let me break the article down for you as it is a pretty long read. I’ll do my best to get some nods rolling from your gorgeous heads and then let’s discuss the mass confusion it has made me feel and if you felt it too. To read the full, blessed article, click here. To read the bits and bobs I jotted down – which are her words not my own – then keep reading…

Her “life advice” comes simplified (and then hugely expanded) into four everyday words: Hobby; Job; Career; Vocation. These “life advice” words completely surprised me! They were not the words I had predicted prior to clicking on the link. Perhaps this goes to show how life-advice-smart I am! Just don’t take advice from me in future – ok! Let’s expand and find your four…

  • Hobby: This is something you do for pleasure, relaxation, distraction or mild curiosity. Hobbies are mellow. Everyone needs to have a hobby.
  • Job: A job is something you do to financially support yourself – lol if you didn’t know that then you may need more help than what this page offers! What’s important to know is your job does not define you. A job is vital but don’t make it YOUR LIFE – it’s just a job. You need to have a job – even if you are completely financially supported…. I am not sure if this applies to SAHM…. Anyhooooo….
  • Career: This is something that you build up over the years with energy, passion and commitment. A career is best done with excitement, it requires ambition, strategy and hustle. A career is a choice. Care about it if you have one – but not everyone needs to have a career.
  • Vocation: This is your calling! While a career is about relationships between you and the world, your vocation is about the relationship between you and God (or the Universe as I prefer to say). A career is dependent on others while vocation belongs only to you. Your vocation can be anything that brings you to life and makes you feel like your soul is animated by purpose. A vocation is a private vow, it is sacred and it is a must!

So with this wonderful information jotted down in my diary, I began to wonder what were my four? Seriously, what are my four? My pen tapped the page over and over but nothing, nothing legible came out. Even when I joined the dots there was nothing there to read into. I wear many hats in life this I do know but I’m not sure what fits where. I don’t know what is my sacred vocation. Is it my dabbling in writing, my love of all things home with Interior Styling, or is it something I haven’t even discovered yet. What I would class as my job when 90% of my life commitment is motherhood but hang on a sec we don’t get paid for that?! My hobby, my distraction …

I don’t know what is my vocation, my scared and private vow with the Universe?! Is it my dabbling in writing, my love of all things to do with homes and my Interior Styling, or is it something I haven’t even discovered yet, something deeper. And what would I class as my job when 90% of my life commitment is motherhood but hang on a sec we don’t get paid for that? Where’s the SAHM union, put her on the phone!! My hobby, my distraction … ummm…. hello Facebook you distract me it must be you! Or is this where my writing belongs because I can while away hours at a time tapping at the keyboard… Or perhaps my obsession with house plans, yes house plans, drawing them by hand, drawing them with instruments, drawing them on the computer and then redrawing other people’s coz I think I can do it better…. What about my career? Is this my Interior Styling or will it one day be my writing  – I get excited about both! Hell, I get excited spending hours drawing house plans too…. Do you see my confusion?!

Who knows their four? Impress me with it!

One love,

DRK xxx

4 thoughts on “Life Advice. Mass Confusion.

  1. Vince says:

    I’ve worked in Asia for the past 20 years running global divisions. I loved the work and the challenges involved. One day, I had a day off in New Dehli and decided to check out an antique book store I found in the local yellow pages. 2 hours later, I arrived at the front door of a nice suburban house, somewhere on the dusty outskirts of New Dehli. At the back of the house/bookstore there was a pile of old papers, which turned out to be a stack of original antique maps from the early 1600’s. The light bulbs weren’t flashing. It was more like Sydney on NYE. This was IT. I’d found it. So, to answer your question.

    1. Hobby: Antique maps first became my hobby. Curiosity, relaxation, mental stimulation.
    2. Job: I decided after 20 years of collecting, that this could be both my job and my hobby. So now I’m a full time international antique map dealer.
    3. Career: Having immersed myself in antique maps for 20 years, I started to give lectures and talks overseas in Asia about old maps, networking with other collectors, picking the brains of world experts. I also realised that I could easily do this until I was well into my 70’s..which is thankfully still some time away.
    4. Vocation: the hobby, job and career of antique maps has fused together into the VOCATION.
    So maybe I’m just lucky. Or maybe the 4 categories aren’t as discreet as what they first seem to be…or don’t have to be mutually exclusive.

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    • superwomanseven says:

      Wow! I love this Vince. I love the certainty you have and I love that you have a career in Antique Map dealings! I’m still working on mine – I think I’m over thinker it but also feel limited with a FIFO husband and five kids … Maybe these are just excuses too ???! Same excuses why I don’t exercise enough lol 😉


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